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How to Get Teenagers to Take Ownership of Their Lives

Navigating the teenage years can be challenging, both for teenagers and their parents. One of the most common struggles is encouraging teens to take accountability, responsibility, and ownership of their actions and decisions. Brent Williams, Founder and Head Presenter at Empower U, sheds light on how teenagers can transform their mindset to take full ownership of their lives.

The Concept of Life as a Ladder

Brent introduces a compelling metaphor – life as a ladder. From birth until the end, we’re either climbing up or sliding down this ladder, based on our actions and decisions. The direction we move is significantly influenced by whether we operate above or below a metaphorical line.

Check out Episode 2 of The Empower U Podcast where we delve deeper into the concept of living above and below the line.

Playing Above the Line

To ascend the ladder, teens must play above the line, embodying three critical behaviors:

  1. Accountability: Accepting the consequences of their actions without shifting blame.
  2. Responsibility: Proactively managing their life and its outcomes.
  3. Ownership: Embracing their life’s entirety, including successes and failures.

Playing Below the Line

Conversely, descending the ladder is often the result of playing below the line, characterised by:

  1. Blame: Pointing fingers at others for one’s circumstances.
  2. Excuses: Justifying inaction or failure.
  3. Denial: Refusing to accept the reality of their situation.

The Outcome Matters

Brent emphasises that the distinction between right and wrong is less important than the outcome of one’s actions. The crucial question teens should ask themselves is whether their behavior serves their growth and well-being. This simple yet profound perspective shift can help teens evaluate their decisions and actions more effectively, encouraging them to act in ways that are beneficial to their development.

Taking Ownership

Taking ownership means more than just admitting when you’re wrong; it’s about actively shaping your life through conscious decisions. Teens are encouraged to reflect on whether their actions, ethics, and the people in their lives contribute positively to their growth.

Empowering teenagers to take ownership of their lives is a transformative process. By understanding the importance of playing above the line, teens can learn to make choices that propel them up the ladder of life. It’s not just about avoiding negative behaviours but actively choosing paths that lead to personal growth and success.

Personal Development and Life Skills for Teenagers

Ready to dive deeper into personal development and take control of your life? Download our free Empower U program guide to learn more about our seminars designed specifically for teenagers and young adults. Discover how Empower U can help you or your teenager navigate the complexities of adolescence with confidence and ownership. Download the guide now and start your journey towards empowerment.

The 6 Human Needs: The Key to Unlocking Your Potential

Ever wondered why we do the things we do? Why some things make us super happy and others, not so much? Well, Brent Williams, the founder of Empower U, recently broke down a fascinating concept that might just have the answers – the 6 human needs. This idea isn’t just a bunch of boring psychology; it’s like the cheat code to understanding yourself and steering your life towards success.

The 6 Human Needs Simplified

  1. Feeling Safe and Comfy (Certainty/Comfort): We all love to feel safe and have things go as planned, right? It’s about knowing what to expect so we can chill and not worry about what’s coming next.
  2. Spicing Things Up (Uncertainty/Variety): Life would be so boring if everything was predictable. We need surprises, fun, and a bit of adventure to keep things interesting.
  3. Feeling Important (Significance): Everyone wants to feel like they matter, whether it’s being the top scorer on your team or getting that nod of approval from someone you look up to.
  4. Connecting with Others (Love and Connection): From hanging out with friends to feeling close with your family, having strong connections makes everything better.
  5. Growing as a Person (Growth): Whether it’s learning a new skill, overcoming a challenge, or just becoming a better version of yourself, growth is key.
  6. Helping Out (Contribution): There’s something special about helping others and making a difference, even in small ways. It makes us feel part of something bigger.

Why It Matters

Understanding these needs can help you figure out what drives you and how to be happier and more fulfilled. For example, if you’re feeling bored or stuck, maybe you need more Variety or Growth in your life. Or, if you’re feeling lonely, focusing on Love and Connection could be a game-changer.

Dive Deeper with Empower U

Fascinated by the 6 human needs and keen to discover more about yourself? Empower U’s seminars are the perfect place to delve deeper into personal development and set yourself (or your teen) up for success. Our engaging, interactive sessions provide the tools and insights you need to navigate life’s challenges and unlock your full potential. Join us at Empower U and start your journey towards a more fulfilling life today.

Understanding these needs is like having a map for life. By knowing what you’re really after, you can make choices that lead to happiness and success. So, why not explore further with Empower U and truly unlock your potential? Keen to know more? Download our free program guide!

 

10 Timeless Personal Development Books for Teens: Empowering the Next Generation

10 Timeless Personal Development Books for Teens: Empowering the Next Generation - Empower UEmpower U

Navigating the teenage years can be complex and challenging. At Empower U, we believe in equipping young minds with the tools they need to thrive. One effective way to do this is through reading. Here’s a list of 10 timeless personal development books that can significantly benefit your teenager, aligning perfectly with Empower U’s mission of fostering growth and resilience in young adults.

1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey

This book is a goldmine for teens looking to develop effective habits for success. It’s a spin-off of Stephen Covey’s famous adult version, tailored to address the unique challenges teens face. By reading this, your child will learn about responsibility, goal setting, and the importance of understanding their own values – essential skills we emphasise at Empower U.

2. How to Win Friends and Influence People for Teen Girls by Dale Carnegie & Donna Dale Carnegie

Adapted for teenage girls, this book offers invaluable lessons in building self-esteem and mastering communication skills. It’s a wonderful resource for helping your daughter navigate complex social dynamics, a skill that’s invaluable both in school and in life.

3. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck

Carol Dweck’s concept of a ‘fixed’ vs. ‘growth’ mindset is transformative. This book will teach your teen that abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. It’s a lesson in resilience that resonates deeply with our philosophy at Empower U.

4. The Teen’s Guide to World Domination by Josh Shipp

With a blend of humor and wisdom, this book addresses a range of topics from relationships to self-identity. It’s particularly effective for teens seeking practical advice with a relatable and engaging approach – aligning with our mission to make learning fun and impactful.

5. The Power of Positive Thinking for Teens by Norman Vincent Peale

Adapting the timeless principles of positive thinking for a younger audience, this book is an excellent guide for teens. It encourages a positive approach to life’s challenges, echoing our belief at Empower U that a positive mindset is key to personal growth.

6. Who Moved My Cheese? for Teens by Spencer Johnson

This simple parable offers profound insights on adapting to change – a vital skill in today’s fast-paced world. It’s a great tool for helping teens understand and embrace change, preparing them for life’s unpredictable twists and turns.

7. You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero

While not exclusively for teens, this book’s direct and humorous approach to self-empowerment has wide appeal. It encourages readers, including older teens, to step out of their comfort zones and embrace their full potential – a core value we uphold at Empower U.

8. The Confidence Code for Girls by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman

This empowering book is a call to action for young girls to embrace their imperfections and find confidence in themselves. It’s a perfect read for helping your daughter develop the confidence to take on the world, something we’re passionate about at Empower U.

9. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff for Teens by Richard Carlson

Offering practical advice on keeping calm and managing stress, this book is a treasure trove of wisdom for teenagers. It aligns with our teachings at Empower U, where we emphasise stress management as a critical skill for personal development.

10. The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make by Sean Covey

This book covers critical areas that teens navigate, providing practical advice for making smart, life-altering decisions. It’s a guide that complements our mission at Empower U to empower teens in making informed choices for their future.

These books are more than just readings; they are guides to navigating the complexities of adolescence with confidence and clarity. At Empower U, we encourage the exploration of such resources as part of our commitment to shaping well-rounded, resilient young adults. Each book on this list aligns seamlessly with our ethos, offering wisdom that transcends the classroom and touches upon the very essence of personal growth and development.

From Apathy to Ambition: 7 Ways to Motivate Your Teen to Achieve More

From Apathy to Ambition: 7 Ways to Motivate Your Teen to Achieve More - Empower UEmpower U

It’s not uncommon for teenagers to show signs of apathy, especially when it comes to academics, extracurricular activities, and planning for the future. This lack of motivation can be a source of frustration and worry for parents who dream of seeing their child thrive. Recognising this struggle, it’s crucial to approach the issue with empathy and understanding, acknowledging the complex emotions involved on both sides. However, there are some practical ways to motivate your teen and help them on their journey to living their best life.

The Roots of Apathy in Teenagers

Apathy in teens can stem from various sources, including

  • a disinterest in available activities
  • fear of failure
  • overwhelming pressure
  • or simply the daunting task of defining their identity.

Identifying these root causes is the first step towards rekindling motivation, as understanding leads to more effective solutions. In this article, we provide seven ways to help your teenager find renewed motivation and set the bar higher with goals that are both inspiring and achievable.

1. Communication is Key

Effective communication can pave the way for breakthroughs in motivation. Encouraging open dialogue, where teens feel safe to express their thoughts and challenges without judgment, is essential. Active listening, where parents truly hear and empathise with their teen’s experiences, fosters a supportive environment conducive to growth.

2. Setting Realistic Goals Together

Collaboratively setting achievable and meaningful goals can help shift a teen from apathy to ambition. It’s beneficial to break larger objectives into smaller, manageable tasks, offering a clear path forward and reducing the feeling of being overwhelmed by the bigger picture.

3. Finding Out Where Their Passion Lies

Helping teens explore a variety of interests can ignite a spark of ambition. Encouraging them to try new activities and hobbies may uncover passions that motivate your teen towards greater achievements. The journey to find what truly excites them can transform indifference into enthusiasm.

4. The Power of Positive Reinforcement

Acknowledging efforts and celebrating achievements, regardless of size, significantly boosts motivation. Focusing on effort and personal improvement, rather than solely on outcomes, reinforces the value of perseverance and growth.

5. Creating a Motivating Environment

A home environment that inspires motivation can make a substantial difference. Establishing routines, minimising distractions, and setting up a dedicated workspace are steps towards creating an atmosphere that encourages focus and productivity. Additionally, parents modelling ambition and a positive work ethic can profoundly influence their teen’s behaviour.

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Social media can be a real time sucker and too much screen time can result in apathy and a lack of motivation.

6. Encouraging Independence and Responsibility

Gradually increasing a teen’s responsibility for their own decisions and actions fosters independence, which can be a powerful motivator. Striking the right balance between providing guidance and allowing teens to experience the consequences of their choices encourages personal development and self-motivation.

7. Utilising Help and Resources Available

Seeking external support, such as mentors, tutors, or personal development workshops, offers additional motivation and perspective. Empower U workshops, in particular, provide teens with the life skills and personal development tools needed to transform apathy into ambition, covering a range of topics relevant to their growth.

Remember, It’s a Journey…

Transitioning from apathy to ambition is not an overnight process; it’s a journey that requires patience, support, and a strong relationship between parents and teens. The steps outlined above offer a roadmap for this journey, emphasising the importance of understanding, communication, and positive reinforcement.

Discover How Empower U Can Help

If you’re actively looking for ways to help motivate your teen and support their journey towards ambition, Empower U’s 2-day workshop could be the answer. Our programmes are designed to engage and inspire teens, equipping them with the skills they need to succeed but that aren’t taught in schools. Click here to learn more about our workshops and how we can help your teen move from apathy to ambition. Take the first step towards a brighter future today.